Seven naslovi

children a positive self-image and effective social skills is to communicate to them that we understand their feelings. Children ...

During this argument I felt: Defensive A Great Deal Definitely a little Not at all Hurt A Great Deal Definitely a little Not at ...

I felt that my A Great Deal Definitely a little Not at all partner was not attracted to me My sense of A Great Deal Definitely ...

feelings, and mem- cries. In other words, reality is subjective, which is why your partner's perspective on the argument may be ...

What one thing could my partner do next time to avoid this argument? If, after working through this exercise, you or your spouse ...

too easy to hold a grudge. For a marriage to go forward happily, you need to pardon each other and give up on past resentments. ...

...

8888 Principle 5:Principle 5:Principle 5:Principle 5: Solve Your Solvable ProblemsSolve Your Solvable ProblemsSolve Your Solvabl ...

couples. Plenty of the people we studied who had enviable, loving relationships did not follow the experts' rules of communicati ...

back into someone scowling and immovable all for the partner's benefit. It just doesn't have to be that way. Keep in mind, as yo ...

Justine (laughs): That's kind of cute. Who do you think's doing it? You keep having clothes to wear. Michael: Yeah, I guess. Jus ...

Because Justine is gentle with Michael, their conversation actually produces a result: They come up with a plan to resolve the c ...

This is because in our culture the wife is far more likely than her husband to bring up difficult issues and push to get them re ...

Our calm is suddenly shattered. T F I find my partner's negativity unnerving and unsettling, T F I think my partner can be tota ...

conflict. If you feel too angry to discuss the matter gently, your best option is not to discuss it at all until you've calmed d ...

Clearly, the "I" statements above are gentler than their "You" counterparts. Of course, you can also buck this general rule and ...

see how all of these steps combine to create a softened startup, compare what Iris says in the following two dialogues: Harsh St ...

When you switch to a soft startup, your spouse may not automatically react so sweetly. He or she may still be anticipating criti ...

You wish that your partner would cook dinner tomorrow night or take you out to dinner. Harsh startup: You never take me anywher ...

You want to do more fun things together on the weekends. Harsh startup: You have no idea how to have a good time. You're a work ...