Boundaries

221 lessons can be trusted, much more than the unlined faces of those who have never failed—and so have never truly lived. Liste ...

222 the out-of-control person isn’t being parented or policed. He is hearing truth in love from a peer. He’s hearing how what he ...

223 Generally speaking, friends of people with self-boundary problems make one of two errors: (1) They become critical and paren ...

224 If You Are a Victim Establishing boundaries for yourself is always hard. It will be especially difficult if your boundaries ...

225 their developmental processes have been damaged or interrupted by abuse. The most primary damage done is that the victim los ...

226 13. Boundaries and God W hen some people read the Bible, they see a book of rules, do’s and don’ts. When others read it, the ...

227 of the main reasons it’s so difficult is because of boundary prob- lems, which are essentially problems of responsibility. W ...

228 God prefers honesty. “It is better not to vow than to make a vow and not fulfill it” (Eccl. 5:5). We would be much better of ...

229 Anger In our deeper honesty and ownership of our true person, there is room for expressing anger at God. Many people who are ...

230 We do the same thing with God. We feel entitled to God’s favor, as if he has to do what we want him to. How do you feel when ...

231 In the same way that we want others to respect our no, God wants us to respect his. He does not want us to make him the bad ...

232 changes his mind as a result of our relationship with him. Either way, we respect his wishes and stay in relationship. Respe ...

233 (Rom. 5:11; Col. 1:19–20). This gospel brings hostile parties together (Col. 1:21) and heals relationships between God and h ...

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PART THREE DEVELOPING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES 235 ...

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237 14 Resistance to Boundaries W e have talked about the necessity of boundaries and their wonderful value in our lives. In fac ...

238 Part of this process of healing is regaining our boundaries. As we become like him, he is redeeming our boundaries and our l ...

239 angry and started yelling at me. If the therapist had not been there, I don’t know what I would have done. He’s never going ...

240 The first thing you need to learn is that the person who is angry at you for setting boundaries is the one with the problem. ...