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the situation from escalating. Mentally flexible—They are not threatened by criticism. They’re willing to reconsider their ways ...

their emotions with you. Last, the secure party engulfs his or her partner in an emotionally protective shield that makes facing ...

stress and depression, and social support—and fewer hours with a nonparental caretaker. To complicate matters further, an idea t ...

relationships. If you are secure, you should be aware of this finding because you have a lot to lose by becoming less secure. Ta ...

system distract you—you aren’t addicted to the highs and lows of being with someone who keeps you guessing all the time. Unlike ...

ask about his ex”—giving the wrong people a second, third, or fourth chance. In Tanya’s case, she’d seen enough and found it poi ...

Secure people don’t always hook up with one another—they date and marry people of all three attachment styles. The good news is ...

Nathan, 35, was at his wits’ end. In the eight years since he’d married Shelly, things had gone from bad to worse. Shelly’s temp ...

their partner. The bad news is that when secure people do, on occasion, enter into a negative relationship, they might not know ...

the attachment prism, we’ve come to appreciate secure people’s talents and abilities. The goofy Homer Simpson- like colleague wh ...

PART THREE When Attachment Styles Clash ...

8. The Anxious-Avoidant Trap When the two people in a couple have colliding intimacy needs, their relationship is likely to beco ...

different needs when it comes to closeness and spending time together. A ROMANTIC BED-AND-BREAKFAST IN VERMONT Susan, 24, and Pa ...

WHEN FACEBOOK AND “ABANDONMENT” ISSUES MEET Naomi, 33, and Kevin, 30, have been seeing each other exclusively for six months and ...

Research on attachment repeatedly shows that when your need for intimacy is met and reciprocated by your partner, your satisfact ...

Here is what characteristically happens in many anxious-avoidant relationships: TELLTALE SIGNS OF THE ANXIOUS-AVOIDANT TRAP ...

The roller-coaster effect. In the relationship you never sail along on an even keel. Instead, every once in a while, when the a ...

WHY ARE INTIMACY DIFFERENCES SO DIFFICULT TO RECONCILE? If two people are in love, can’t they find a way to be together and work ...

In order to dodge the possibility of getting closer, avoidants tend to grow more hostile and distant as arguments progress. Unle ...

9. Escaping the Anxious-Avoidant Trap: How the Anxious-Avoidant Couple Can Find Greater Security If you’ve discovered that most ...