The Art of Approaching

A confident man would not waste his time thinking about these things. Instead, he’d be thinking about how much he loves the food ...

Ass Holes don’t need anything from anyone. Therefore, their actions of kindness are completely selfless, because they expect not ...

CONFIDENCE DESTROYING MYTHS The belief that everyone sees you in the way you see yourself can be traumatic, especially if you ar ...

“You make mistakes. You are stupid. You ought to feel ashamed of yourself!” I was out with a guy not long ago who, after strikin ...

You’re jealous of those you see as more attractive, and you are always angry and feel sorry for yourself because you are constan ...

CONFIDENCE DESTROYING ACTIONS They say actions speak louder than words, and truer words were never spoken. It’s one thing to thi ...

The Pleaser tires from doing too much for others and not enough for himself. He is insecure about himself and his abilities, and ...

BEING COMFORTABLE WITH NEGATIVE FEELINGS As human beings, we all move towards that which is familiar. It’s a natural instinct to ...

When things go bad, we work to try and raise our feelings back to that set point. When things go good, we also work to lower tho ...

HOMEWORK: Sit down and think of how your parents would describe themselves. Are they using any of the five myths? Write down how ...

BAD HABITS TO AVOID Just like the five myths and five actions, there’s five habits you’ll want to avoid if you want to shed the ...

Thinking you’re too ugly to approach a girl may just keep you from meeting someone who is actually attracted to you! But your cr ...

To this type of person, nothing good can ever last. People get annoyed with these types of people and tend to ignore them or dis ...

HOW TO CHANGE YOUR HABITS Now that you know everything that causes your lack of confidence, it’s time to work on fixing what cau ...

Pleasing If you’re a people-pleaser, it’s time stop bending over backwards and be straightforward and honest with others. First ...

The first thing that every whiner has to realize is that their lives are not the problem – their feelings are. Whiners set thems ...

one wants to talk to me! I’m alone!” But you’re choosing to sit at home and not go out. You’re choosing to stay timid and shy in ...

Stop avoiding discipline, from yourself and others, and accept it maturely Stop criticizing yourself Try to accept criticism fr ...

Whenever you feel fear, respond to it by calming yourself. Be honest and reasonable about what’s causing you to be afraid, and r ...

RETRAINING YOURSELF TO BE CONFIDENT All the habits listed in the previous chapter spring from how you have trained yourself to r ...