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While Emily was with David, in terms of relationships, she lived her life in the danger zone. She felt like a tightrope walker w ...

almost constant sense of threat to the relationship. She was always busy trying to minimize it by staying close to him—be it by ...

Ryan, who has an anxious attachment style, has a sixth sense for attachment-related cues; he is very much in tune with the small ...

running into him/her. Withdrawing: Sitting silently “engrossed” in the paper, literally turning your back on your partner, not ...

Protest behavior is any action that tries to reestablish contact with your partner and get their attention. There are many ways ...

Understanding the attachment system is crucial for people with an anxious attachment style. Therein lies their chance for a happ ...

style going well with secures. Why is this so? And most important, how can you find happiness and avoid unnecessary heartache? G ...

calls, but takes his time about it; he’s interested in you, but lets you understand that he’s still playing the field. You are l ...

THE LAW OF LARGE NUMBERS—WHY YOU ARE MORE LIKELY TO MEET AVOIDANTS WHEN YOU GO OUT ON A DATE There is one last reason you will p ...

Conclusion: People with a secure attachment style take a very long time to reappear in the dating pool, if at all. Studies have ...

was missing.” At the time, Rachel was dumbfounded. She didn’t understand why she was turning him down. In hindsight, we do under ...

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU FOLLOW COMMON DATING ADVICE? Say you decide to follow the advice of many popular relationship books. They ...

can enjoy the thrill and closeness you naturally project when you are together without having to consider your needs for intimac ...

yourself in order to please your partner, as so many relationship books advise, think: Can this person provide what I need in or ...

Your messages don’t get across—despite your best efforts to communicate your needs, he or she doesn’t seem to get the message o ...

absolutely devastated and couldn’t stop thinking about him for many months. She wouldn’t even consider dating anyone else becaus ...

As we discussed earlier in the chapter, there are a disproportionate number of avoidants in the dating pool. Another useful step ...

When you’re seeing several people—which has become very feasible in the Internet and Facebook age—it also becomes easier to make ...

When someone she was interested in started to disengage or act avoidant, she found it much easier to simply move on without los ...

findings, however, prove that there are many men who are far from being avoidant—they communicate freely, are loving and affecti ...