Boundaries

241 she realized that she could say, “I will not allow myself to be yelled at. I will go into the other room until you decide yo ...

242 “If you really loved me, you would make this telephone call for me.” “It seems like you would care enough about the family ...

243 boundaries, maybe you have not looked specifically at the ones your family or other people are using. Here are a few tips ab ...

244 feel that way.” “I realize this is disappointing to you. How can I help?” “It’s hard for you when I have other things to do, ...

245 Predictably, he started to cut Brian off from the resources that he had had access to. He used him as an example to the sib- ...

246 When you count the cost of the consequences, as difficult or as costly as they seem, they hardly compare to the loss of your ...

247 Physical Resistance It is sad that we have to include this section, but some people can’t maintain their boundaries with ano ...

248 Blamers Blamers will act as though your saying no is killing them, and they will react with a “How could you do this to me?” ...

249 Remember the story of Moses’ impending burnout in Exo- dus 18. Moses’ father-in-law, Jethro, saw all that he was doing for t ...

250 many times Scripture talks about keeping boundaries with someone until she owns what she has done and produces “fruit in kee ...

251 centered and unable to see her needs and respect her bound- aries. Before long she would be miserable. She would talk with f ...

252 when someone is unable to set boundaries, it is because they can- not let go of the person with whom they are fused. Jane ke ...

253 Own your boundarylessness. Admit that you have a prob- lem. Own the fact that if you are being controlled, manipulated, or ...

254 Move on. The last step in grieving has to do with finding what you want. “Seek and you will find.” God has a real life out ...

255 person in the world that they could depend on, and so his anger frightened them. The other one saw it from an adult’s eyes a ...

256 and you may need a reality check on that. You may have thought that you kept your boundaries when you gave away the farm. Ge ...

257 your mom and dad to explore the world. As a five-year-old you left home to go to school, opening up possibilities of sociali ...

258 because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up” (Eccl. 4:9–10). Remember, as ...

259 If you had some serious losses in the past, such as losses of friends through frequent moves, you may be tapping into what w ...

260 Remind yourself of what God has done and who he is. If you have been a Christian for a long time, look back into your life a ...