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things get too close, and then learn how to communicate that need. Explain to your partner in advance that you need some time al ...

people who relied only on themselves and had no one to protect them were more likely to end up as prey. More often than not, tho ...

Monique and Greg have been going out for a couple of months, and the Fourth of July is around the corner. Monique plans to celeb ...

this way, but it would expose a smoking gun. Two or three such evading tactics would probably inspire Greg to look for love else ...

IT’S NEVER TOO LATE TO USE EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION, EVEN IF YOU START OFF ON THE WRONG FOOT Larry got a disturbing e-mail from w ...

Focus on your needs. The idea is to get your needs across. When expressing your needs, we are always referring to needs that ta ...

setting, the intimate bonds formed by investing greatly in a particular individual would yield greater benefits for both the ind ...

believe that many of your needs are illegitimate. But whether they are legitimate or not for someone else is beside the point. T ...

You are allowing both yourself and your partner to strive for a secure, mutually dependent bond. COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY 101 ...

seek it. It allowed us to learn not only what goes “wrong” in relationships but also what goes “right,” and it allowed us to fin ...

1. ___ 2. ___ 3. ___ Which of the above actions do I feel most comfortable bringing up and discussing? Use your response to this ...

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It’s important to remember that even with effective communication, some problems won’t be solved immediately. What’s vital is yo ...

12. Working Things Out: Five Secure Principles for Dealing with Conflict CAN FIGHTING MAKE US HAPPIER? A major misconception abo ...

order Chinese or Indian. Such disagreements are actually good because they force you to live in relation to someone else and lea ...

Maintain focus on the problem at hand. Refrain from generalizing the conflict. Be willing to engage. Effectively communicate fe ...

Maintain focus on the problem at hand: George’s messy place “On one of our first dates,” Kelly recalls, “George and I stopped ...

Refrain from generalizing the conflict: The shopping trip Though both Terry and Alex, who are in their mid-fifties, have a sec ...

In all three conflicts above, whether resolved peacefully or explosively, the secure partner (or partners) remains “present” bot ...

bewildered that Rebecca is suddenly behaving so irrationally—after all, they have an understanding that he doesn’t have to go to ...